Why do we all have to compare? At the end of the day we should all be :
1. Pro feeding children (breast or bottle I don’t care – FEED THE CHILDREN!)
2. Let your baby sleep ( If that means co – sleeping or in a bed all to themselves awesome!) Whatever helps you sleep because if you aren’t getting rest guess what you can’t take care of anyone else!
3. Educate your children (formal or informal! Homeschool, public, or private it doesn’t matter! Find what works for your family in your home for your current situation!)
4. Screens – (Educate yourself on the pros and cons of using them and go from there)
5. Vaccinations – (Educate yourself and do what feels right for your child)
Basically – Understand that we as Mom’s – It doesn’t matter! Life is hard enough stop worrying about everyone else and start worrying about your child and what works in your house- We are not always aware of what is going on in everyone else’s homes or lifes and that’s okay, but we can be supportive! We can agree to disagree! We don’t have to believe the same things. We just have to do the best we can do with what we have!
Let’s take a step back and just breathe! We are all fighting battles for our kids! I promise! We need support not criticism and I promise you until you walk in someone’s shoes you do not know what you would do! It’s very easy to be on the outside and say what you think you would do in that situation, but until it’s at your doorstep you have NO idea how you would feel or what you would do!
The one thing we all can do is offer a shoulder or an ear! Sometimes that’s all we need as people we just need someone to hear us! Someone to see us! Someone love us!
It’s very easy to get lost in our kids, but we have to remember that we have to show our who we are because they are learning from us! Let’s show them and strong and independent we are by embracing who we are! Let them see you be weak because if they see that they can then celebrate your strength! Let them see you be kind to someone different than you! Let them see you make a mistake and apologize for it! Let them see you work hard! Let them see you!
Talk with them in a way that they can hear you! A lot of times as our littles turn into biggs we forget to talk with them – and they need that they need to hear stories from your youth! They need to hear you laugh! They need to see you cry! They need to hear every aspect of who you are!
Let them love you! It’s okay Mama- slow down!~ Sometimes they just need be with you without a schedule! It’s these moments that they can really see you! Really hear you and really love you!
While doing all these things – make sure that you remember to See yourself! Hear yourself! Love yourself! We all need to take a step back and really see ourselves! We need to see what we do and how we do it! We need to see how strong we are! Take a moment and really listen! WE all have that inner voice and need to listen to it! Listen to when we are tired, listen to when we need a break, listen to when we need to slow down. We need to learn to love ourselves because everyone in our lives loves us! 🙂
Mama – you are beautiful! I know the days are long! They really are, but those years short! Super short! Try and embrace it! Try and remember to try and not over think it all. You are doing great!